Comfort is a part of home and a part of nesting. According to dictionary definitions, comfort means: a state of physical ease, or freedom from pain; the easing of a person’s feelings of distress or grief.
Comfort has begun to include: things we do for ourselves and others; experiences that ease stress; and a sense of having no worries. Comfort also includes:
- Yoga. Exercise. Movie-watching. Sometimes experiences alone or with others bring comfort and relief.
- Home and office spaces can bring a sense of stress based on what’s in our space, the to-do lists, and the people in our spaces. Hammocks or inviting sofas and chairs can be a place for comfort. Maybe your bed is a place of comfort. What can you do to improve your spaces and bring yourself comfort?
- We’ve all likely got comfort foods. I grew up in the Midwest, so casseroles and ice cream are a part of my comfort food set. In moderation, maybe food is okay for finding comfort. Too much comfort food and we’re telling ourselves we need help to handle our grief, stress, distress, hurt, or sadness.
- Supportive Hugs. Sometimes a supportive hug is all that we need. No problem-solving or lengthy discussion, simply a hug that communicates “I see you, I support you, I’m here for you.” Consider the current movement of hiring someone to hug you and cuddle with you, no sex is involved. Yes, it’s true, there are certified people who provide this kind of comfort across the country.
- Pets. Perhaps your pet brings you comfort in the way it snuggles with you; knows when you are emotional; or licks your fingers, toes, and nose to offer love.
Comfort is not anything that can lead to mid- or long-term stress and unhealthiness. Comfort is not provided in some moments with abusive language or actions in the next moments – that is abuse. Comfort is not used as an apology or a bribe – that too is abuse.
Comfort relieves stress. Comfort eases or frees us from physical and/or emotional pain. Comfort is a support and help. Comfort is
What comforts you? What comforts family members and friends? What are you doing each week to bring comfort into your life?
Nesting is about the objects and experiences that create a sense of home. Without home, it is difficult to maintain health, find joy, or to be productive during our workdays. Enjoy the Nesting series of blogs on your search for a deep sense of home. –Jana