We are worthy! Every one of us, regardless of who we are, where we live, what we do, or what we have done is worthy. And worthy of living a healthy, meaningful, and fulfilling life.
While reading an autobiography for October’s book club gathering, I’ve been reminded of the struggle so many people face about being worthy. Despite her family being very supportive and encouraging., surprisingly the famous author shares her struggles with feeling “enough” around friends who seemed to be more and in a community that didn’t seem to notice her. Friends have shared that they grew up feeling “not enough” or “never enough” or so belittled by parents that they have fought their entire lives to prove worthiness in everything they do and pursue. Three people I know have even changed their first names to shed the angst associated with their childhood years and the negative treatment and messages.
Sounds exhausting and humiliating to me. Even more concerning to me is that some church services regularly include the message “…I am not worthy to be received.” When families and churches – the very places that are meant to be places of safe-haven, support and encouragement – are putting us down, telling us that we are not worthy, where does that leave us?
Messages of unworthiness seem to have two outcomes. One, that some people give up on themselves and believe the “not worthy” messages; sometimes turning to drugs and alcohol to drown out the negative voices. Or two, that other people determine that they are indeed worthy and are going to prove to others that they are, how they are, and what they can accomplish that is noteworthy, outstanding, and award-winning. Both life-choice outcomes still sound exhausting.
In whatever ways you approach your sense of worthiness, remember that YOU ARE WORTHY!
Worthy to be alive. Worthy to pursue your ideas and dreams. Worthy to live in a safe, comfortable and enjoyable place. Worthy to laugh and experience joy. Worthy to cry when you feel like crying. Worthy of every emotion you have and feel. Worthy of standing still. Worthy of learning and growing. Worthy of healthy meals, activities, and friends. Worthy of all the things and people you determine you need and want in your life!
Right now. Today. Every day. YOU ARE WORTHY!
Nesting is about the objects and experiences that create a sense of home. Without home, it is difficult to maintain health, find joy, or to be productive during our workdays. Enjoy the Nesting series of blogs on your search for a deep sense of home. –Jana